Weed and Relationships: The Highs and Lows

You blaze and your man doesn’t, or maybe you hate Mary Jane but your man loves her - Does this ever cause relationship problems? 

We are woman who blaze hard, this isn’t self- proclaimed , many people have pointed this out to us on numerous occasions,  admittedly we’ve never been shocked by it!  Cannabis, weed, hash, ganja, pot - whatever you may choose to call the dried, shredded flowers and leaves of the hemp plant Cannabis Sativa, we love it and millions of others do too. The first written accounts of cannabis use can be found in Chinese records dating from 2800 BC. Although experts widely except that cannabis was being used for medical, recreational and religious purposes for thousands of years before that relieving the pain of child birth in roman Palestine and putting a smile on the face of Greek philosopher’s. 

However, it has recently come to my attention that Mary Jayne may be causing trouble in love. The last man I was dating gave me the ultimate ultimatum - take my final dance with her or it’s over. Of course, I chose to stick with Mary; after all she has consistently been there for me over many years and has introduced me to people from all walks of life.  How could I possibly turn my back on her for a man I’ve known for a couple of weeks? I couldn’t! and so we were over… This got me thinking about how my smoking weed has influenced relationships with the men of my past.  

I’m going to explore this from a couple of angles. I’ll start with the guy who smokes as much as you and you both love it. There is nothing better than sharing a spliff with someone u care about, sharing the chill, the laughter, the ridiculous munchies, even the evil got no weed times - there really isn’t anything better… hold on, I’m getting carried away here, there is always two sides of a story - it’s all you end up doing, you don’t go out, you just stay in preferably for whole weekends at a time only leaving the house in emergency no rizla situations and only stop smoking when asleep! The highs of smoking weed together conceal the lows (pun intended) and you can end up sticking with a man for much longer than you should. 

Next up, she smokes and her man doesn’t - a close friend and family member has been in a relationship with her man for ten years, they live together and have a seven year old son, it isn’t and never has been an issue, he accepts that she likes to do it and that’s the end of it, he has chosen not to make it an issue and they are both happy.  First hand proof that this can work.

This is where we were a little stumped! The women who don’t smoke but who are with weed toakers situation – having never been women who don’t blaze, we can only assume that problems arise when it becomes a form of jealously i.e. she can’t understand why he has to smoke weed when he’s got her for company, or if she kicks up a fuss about it and he begins to resent her for it. I came across a blog about a man who claims that his ‘weed addiction’ has ruined many of his relationships, interestingly he comments that ‘basically, I resent that a girlfriend interferes with my unrestricted access to smoking marijuana, and the mental and emotional state of being high’. Clearly, in this case love is no match for Mary.

Discussing this has left us totally confused about whether we could have a partner who doesn’t smoke and also really concerned about it being a reason why we don’t have relationships as we have also become aware that a number of our older (over 40)stoner friends are not in relationships – Have they chosen Mary over Love? 

I would hate to think that my love of cannabis has any negative effects on my love life…but the signs are there and they demand attention. We would love to know if you think weed causes relationship problems so pllleeeeaaassseee share your thoughts and experiences with us.

UG xx